I will eventually get to writing a post about my trip to London and Paris last week, but I ran into this on the internet today and felt like it was a really good get to know/self reflecting list of questions.
What is one of the nicest things someone has ever done for you? I struggled a lot as a teenager and I had a best friend Brian (rest his soul), who saw how badly I was struggling and that I didn't value my life at all and he told my parents. Without someone recognizing it and doing something about it, I most definitely wouldn't be where I am today.
Who/what do you love most and what are you doing about it? I LOVE how fortunate I am to have the family I do, the career I do and the opportunities/health I do. Every day, I try (not always successfully) to make the best of each and every one of those things.
How do you show yourself that you love yourself? I Crossfit. Taking care of my body and challenging it is the best way for me to show myself love.
Whose life do you believe you’ve had the biggest impact on? I'd like to say my best friend, Mike, but maybe that's just me being overly confident, but he has had a pretty significant impact on me as well.
What is home to you? home is anywhere my family is.
Is there anybody in your life that you would like to forgive, but haven’t? yes, definitely. that is all.
When is silence more meaningful than words? When someone dies. I've had people close to me die and sometimes a person sitting next to me that loves me is better than any words possible.
What do you wish you knew? I wish I knew how to magically be better in relationships and what my future holds in that aspect of my life.
Are there chances you’ve passed up that you wish you’d have taken? I think moving to a new place after college would be it. I'm very happy with my career but I wish I got to experience another place.
When was the last time you lied? Why? 2 days ago, because I was avoiding the truth. The truth hurt and I took the "easy" way out, which didn't end up being that easy.
What will you never give up on? LOVE
What is the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done? booked and went on a trip to Europe by myself!
How do you know when it’s time to let go of something or someone? Someone= when that person no longer wants you in their life and/or they are making your life worse more than better. Something= if it's not adding to your life or helping you grow, it's not worth your time.
What do you wish someone would ask you? what scares me. I rarely get to have that conversation with people.
What have you witnessed that has strengthened/weakened your faith in humanity? I think that every day we witness good and bad, strengths and weaknesses, but seeing that people are capable of love and compassion in any capacity is what maintains my faith in humanity.
Are there things that you sometimes pretend you understand, but actually don’t? I usually don't pretend. I'm pretty much secure enough to say that I don't understand something when I don't
What big lesson could someone learn from your life? Things really do find their way of working themselves out and are usually not what you plan or what you originally want.
What have you done lately that’s worth remembering? This one is easy right now. I went to London and Paris for the first time. I explored and learned so much in 9 days , I will never forget this trip.
What is the simplest truth you can say with words? You can never stop growing.
Not every day is going to be our best day. The other day, I felt very defeated personally, my emotions were controlling my mindset and my decisions and I was a mess. I could barely make it through an hour without holding back tears. But who are we but the combination of our best moments, our worst moments, our successes, our failures, our ups and downs, our experiences and our visions. I cannot let myself be defined by the day or week I couldn't pull myself together, but I can be defined by the combination of my experiences, by looking at how far I've come.
We can measure our progress in life, in our careers, in our relationships and in the gym by looking at how far we've come. The then vs. the now.
A little over a year ago, the day I finally cleaned (as in the olympic lift) over 100#, I can now use as a progress point. A year later, I am able to a 10 min EMOM with 120#. In the moment, yes, I wish I could've done that workout with 125, but I have to look how far I've come. Focus on what my hard work has resulted in and keep working towards that continued progress.
When I first graduated college, I was waitressing, partying every night, with very little thought of my future and very little respect for the person and woman I was and am. Yes, today I want more, I want to be stronger, I want to make more money, I want men to respect me the way I deserve, more and more. Instead of living disappointed that I am not yet exactly where I want to be, I look at how far I've come, how much better off I am, personally and financially.
Where were you 6 months ago, 5 years ago? What have your experiences combined to create, have you let the positives and negatives shape and mold the present moment and person you look at in the mirror every day?
Writing this post was a lot harder than I thought it would be. Turning your thinking and actions from
good-->great is not a simple task. It made me reflect on what I'm only just doing "well" and critically think about how I can and want to change that. It's easy to be good, make good decisions, do good things, but what does it really mean to be great, to take everything in your life to the next level? This is what I've got so far and I'm excited to see how I can make this a consistent part of my thinking and my life.
Good: Showing up at CF every day
Great: Identifying my weaknesses, pushing through the suck and turning them into strengths
Good: Trying to think optimistically
Great: Taking control of every situation and making it a positive
Good: Being honest with myself about my feelings
Great: Becoming more self aware and embracing my good and bad feelings
Good: Planning trips and traveling
Great: Immersing myself in other cultures
Good: Being confident in who I am
Great: Knowing what I deserve, what I'm worth and demanding nothing less
Good: Trying new things
Great: Opening my heart and mind to anything and everything I experience
Good: Doing something nice for someone
Great: Selflessly putting someone's happiness above my own
Good: Facing a fear
Great: Recognizing, digesting and tackling that fear